YOU! YOU ARE NOT YOUR BRA-SIZE...

You are not your bra-size, nor are you the width of your waist, nor

are you the slenderness of your calves.

You are not your hair color, nor are you a shade of 

 your lipstick.

Your shoe-size is of no consequence.

You are not defined by the amount of attention you

got from males, females, or any combination thereof.

You are not a little red dress.

You are not the number of sit ups you can do, nor are

you the number of calories in a day.

You are not your mustache.

You are not the hair on your legs

You are no amalgam of these things.

You are the content of your character.

You are the ambitions that drive you.

You are the goals that you set.

You are the things that you laugh at and

the words that you say.

You are the thoughts you think and the things you wonder.

You are beautiful and desirable not for the clique you attend,

but for the spark of life within you that compels you

to make your life a full and meaningful one.

You are beautiful not for the shape of the vessel,

but for the volume of the soul it carries.

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KEY TO BEAUTIFUL LIFE

HEALTHY HABITS EVERY WOMAN SHOULD CONSIDER

1.  Start fresh every single day.

2.  Check your credit card statements, bank account, and pay stubs regularly.

3.  Adopt a "Meatless Monday" mentality.

4.  Put down your phone when you're out with people.

5.  Try the 2/30 rule:  2 hours of TV, 30 minutes of exercise.

6.  Understand that exercise doesn't have to be a big time commitment.

7.  Cut back on sugar.

8.  Drink warm water with lemon and cayenne pepper daily.

9.  Don't try to keep up with the Joneses, you'll lose.

10.  Use retinol if you're starting to get wrinkles.

11.  Ask HR about benefits you're probably not using.

12.  Practice safe sex, always.

13.  Never grocery shop on an empty stomach.

14.  Start biking even in a short mile.

15.  Keep healthy snacks at home and at work.

16.  Stop beating yourself up.

17.  Don't do drugs or say 'NO' to drugs.

18.  Stop smoking or 'Never' smoke.

19.  Take care of your clothing.

20.  Eat whole foods as much as possible.

21.  Consolidate and pay off debt as soon as possible.

22.  Don't skip your yearly Gynecologist appointment.

23.  Don't overdo the booze.

24.  Don't snack if you're not hungry.

25.  Use SPF, and wear a hat in the sun.

26.  Don't rely on pills if you can not sleep.

27.  Drink at least 8 ounces of fluids a day.

28.  Make your home a place you want to be.

29.  Don't buy things you know you'll only wear once.

30.  Use YouTube for free exercise videos.

31.  Google "How to make your own cleaning supplies.

32.  Drop loose change into the same jar daily.

33.  Stand up for yourself.

34.  Avoid tanning beds like the plaque.

35.  Take medication seriously.

36.  Listen to your body.

37.  Do not lose sleep.

38.  Do mental health checks.

39.  Read labels on everything from food to make-up.

40.  Prioritize stress management.

41.  Optimize your fertility, if you plan on kids.

42.  Consider drinking liquid chlorophyll.

43.  Always wear seatbelt, even in taxi.

44.  Wash your hands often.

45.  Floss after every brushing.

46.  Sneeze into your arm, not your palm.

47.  For every 20 minutes on a computer, look away for 20 seconds.

48.  Count to 10 when you're angry.

49.  Learn to make constructive criticism.

50.  Never let google diagnose you.

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COCO CHANEL: GODDESS OF STYLE

Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself

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Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn.

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The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud!

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Before you leave the house, look in the mirror and remove one accessory.

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The best colour in the whole world is the one that looks good on you.

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Fashion fades, only style remains the same.

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Nothing makes a woman look so old as trying desperately hard to look young.

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You can be gorgeous at thirty, charming at forty, and irresistible for the rest of your life.

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A girl should be two things classy and fabulous.

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Being well dressed is a beautiful form of politeness.

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Keep your heels, heed and standards high.

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Some people think luxury is the opposite of poverty.  It is not.  It is the opposite of vulgarity.

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Simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance.

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Don't be like the rest of them...Darling.

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I don't care what you think about me.  I don't think about you at all.

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Success is most often achieved by those who don't know that failure is inevitable.

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Beauty should begin in the heart and soul otherwise cosmetics are useless.

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Classy is when a woman has everything to flaunt, but chooses not to show it.

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Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman.

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Not every woman is born beautiful, but if she is not beautiful at 30, she is simply stupid.

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If you are sad, if you are heartbroken, make yourself up, add more lipstick and attack, men hate women who weep.

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I don't understand how a woman can leave the house without fixing herself up a little - if only out of politeness.  And then, you never know, maybe that's the day she has a date with

destiny.  And it's best to be as pretty as possible for destiny.

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There are no ugly women in this world, just lazy ones.

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A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.

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A woman with good shoes is never ugly.

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SUCCESSFUL AND HAPPY LIFE

LESSONS TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL AND HAPPY LIFE

FROM AN 80-YEAR-OLD MAN

1.  Have a firm handshake.

2.  Look people in the eye.

3.  Sing in the shower.

4.  Own a great stereo sound system.

5.  If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.

6.  Keep secrets.

7.  Never give up on anybody.  Miracles happen everyday.

8.  Always accept an outstretched hand.

9.  Be brave.  Even if you're not, pretend to be.  No one can tell the difference.

10.  Whistle.

11.  Avoid sarcastic remarks.

12.  Choose your life's mate carefully.  From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.

13.  Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.

14.  Lend only those books you never care to see again.

15.  Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.

16.  When playing games with children, let them win.

17.  Give people a second chance, but not a third.

18.  Be romantic.

19.  Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

20.  Loosen up.  Relax.  Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.

21.  Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments, it's there for our convenience, not the callers.

22.  Be a good loser.

23.  Be a good winner.

24.  Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.

25.  When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.

26.  Be modest.  A lot was accomplished before you were born.

27.  Keep it simple.

28.  Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.

29.  Don't burn bridges.  You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.

30.  Live your life so that your epitaph could read, 'No Regrets'.

31.  Be bold and courageous.  When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.

32.  Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.

33.  Remember no one makes it alone.  Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.

34.  Take charge of your attitude.  Don't let someone else choose it for you.

35.  Visits friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only to stay for a few minutes.

36.  Begin each day with some of your favorite music.

37.  Once in a while, take the scenic route.

38.  Send a lot of Valentine cards.  Sign them, "Someone who thinks you're terrific."

39.  Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.

40.  Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed side table.  A million dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3:00 a.m.

41.  Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.

42.  Send your loved ones flowers.  Think of a reason later.

43.  Make someone's day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.

44.  Become someone's hero.

45.  Marry only for love.

46.  Count your blessings.

47.  Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home.

48.  Wave at the children on a school bus.

49.  Remember that 80 percent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.

50.  Don't expect life to be fair.

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MARIA (CHOPRA) VETRY

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MARILYN MONROE: GODDESS DEEPEST THOUGHTS

MARILYN MONROE'S DEEPEST THOUGHTS

HERE ARE SOME OF MARILYN'S OWN WRITTEN THOUGHTS ABOUT HER

SCARS OF SEXUAL ABUSE; THE PAIN OF PSYCHOTHERAPY; THE BETRAYAL BY ARTHUR MILLER (THE ACTRESS THIRD HUSBAND) THE SPECULATION OF HEREDITARY MADNESS AND HER DETERMINATION TO MASTER HER ART.

MAYBE SOMEHOW OR SOMEWAY, WE MIGHT UNDERSTAND THE ENIGMA OF MARILYN MONROE AND THE MYSTERY OF HER LIFE AND DEATH.

HOWEVER, NO MATTER WHAT SHE WAS NOT A MIRAGE.  HER LIFE EXISTED AND SHE STILL LIVES IN OUR HEART.

On June 19, 1942,Marilyn Monroe was married to James Dougherty, an intelligent, attractive man five years her senior.  She was just 16 years old when she married Dougherty.  She wrote her feelings and deepest analysis about her marriage to him in her diary.

"I was greatly attracted to him as one of the few young men I had no sexual repulsion for besides which it gave me a false sense of security to feel that he was endowed with more overwhelming qualities which I did not possess---on paper it all begins to sound terribly logical but the secret midnight meetings the fugitive glance stolen in others company the sharing of the ocean, moon & stars and air aloneness made it a romantic adventure which a young, rather shy girl who didn't always give that impression because of her desire to belong & develop can thrive on-I had always felt a need to live up to that expectation of my elders."

Marilyn's memory about her marriage to James Dougherty evolved on her fear that he preferred his former girlfriend (Doris Ingram, a beauty queen from Santa Barbara). This situation gave Marilyn a sense of unworthiness and vulnerability to the opposite sex.

"Finding myself of handedly stood up snubbed my first feeling was not of anger---but the numb pain of rejection & hur

t at the destruction of some sort of edealistic image of true love.

My first impulse then was one of complete subjection humiliation, alonement to the male counterpart. (all this thought & writing has made my hands tremble..."

She wrote her thoughts about questioning the process she was doing on self analisis and memory, if this is good for her.

"For someone like me its wrong to go through self-analisis---I do it enough in thought generalities enough.

Its not to much fun to know yourself to well or think you do---everyone needs a little conceit to carry them through & past the falls."

Marilyn's memory about her great-aunt Ida Martin, a strict, evangelical Christian.  Ida was paid by Grace Goddard to look after Norma Jeane (Marilyn's original name) from 1937 to 1938.  She wrote,

"Ida --- I have still been obeying her --- it's not only harmful for me to do so but unrealality because life starts from Now"

Then,

"working (doing my tasks that I have set for myself)  On the stage --- I will not be punished for it or be whipped or be threatened or not be loved or sent to hell to burn with bad people feeling that I am also bad.  or be afraid of my (genitals) being or ashamed, exposed known and seen --- so what or ashamed of my sensitive feelings"

In April 1955, Marilyn moved to the 27th floor of the Waldorf-Astoria.  It was in Waldorf-Astoria that she started writing down some of her memories and dreams.  She wrote about her nightmare in which Strasberg is operating on her with Dr. Hohenberg assisting:

"Best finest surgeon - Strasberg to cut me open which I don't mind since Dr. H has prepared me --- given me anaesthetic and has also diagnosed the case and agrees with what has to be done- an operation - to bring myself back to life and to cure me of this terrible dis-ease whatever the hell it is- and there is absolutely nothing there---Strasberg is deeply disappointed but more even --- academically amazed that he had made such a mistake.  He thought there was going to be so much --- more than he had ever dreamed possible ... instead there was absolutely nothing---devoid of every human living feeling thing---the only thing that came out was so finely cut sawdust---like out of a raggedy ann doll---and the sawdust spills all over the floor & table and Dr. H is puzzled because suddenly she realizes that this is a new type case.  The patient ... existing of complete emptiness, Strasberg's dreams & hopes for theater are fallen.  Dr. H's dreams and hopes for a permanent psychiatric cure is given up---Arthur is disappointed---let down"

On June 29, 1956, Marilyn converted to Judaism in order to marry Arthur Miller (Pulitzer Prize-winning author of All My Sons, Death of a Salesman, The Crucible, and A View from the Bridge).  Marilyn admired Miller because of his intellectual, artistic achievement, and high seriousness.  Marilyn wrote about her marriage to Arthur as such:

"I am so concerned about protecting Arthur, I love him---and he is the only person---human being I have ever known that I could love not only as a man to which I am attracted to practically out of my senses about---but he (is) the only person...that I trust as much as myself---because when I do trust myself (about certain things) I do fully"

In one of Marilyn's sweet and affecting poems (while still in love with Arthur) was about imagining what he might have been like as a young boy:

"my love sleeps besides me---in the faint light---I see his manly jaw give way---and the mouth of his boyhood returns with a softness softer its sensitiveness trembling in stillness.  His eyes must have look out wonderously from the cave of the little boy---when the things he did not understand---he forgot, but will he look like this when he is dead.  Oh unbearable fact inevitable yet sooner would I rather his love die than/or him?"

When Marilyn stumbled upon Arthur Miller's diary, she was devastated.  Arthur wrote his disappointment and embarrassment towards Marilyn in front of his friends.  After knowing about Arthur feeling about her, Marilyn found it difficult to work.  From New York, Marilyn flew to Dr. Hohenberg because she was having difficulty to sleep.  She wrote:

"on the screen of pitch blackness comes/reappears the shapes of monsters, my most steadfast companion...and the world is sleeping.  Ah peace I need you---even a peaceful monster."

In was in winter of 1957, when Miller worked on adapting one of his short stories (The Misfits) for screen, where Marilyn is one of the stars.  She wrote while still haunted with her feelings of disappointment and loss:

"Starting tomorrow I will take care of myself for that's all I really have and as I see it now have ever had.  Roxbury---I've tried to imagine spring all winter---it's here and I still feel hopeless.  I think I hate it here because there is no love here anymore...

In every spring the green (of the ancient maples) is too sharp---though the delicacy in their from is sweet and uncertain---it puts up a good struggle in the wind---trembling all the while...  I think I am very lonely---my mind jumps.  I see myself in the mirror now, brow furrowed---if I lean close I'll see---what I don't want to know---tension, sadness, disappointment, my ['blue" is crossed out] eyes dulled, cheeks flushed with capillaries that look like snakes.  The mouth makes me the sadd[est], next to my dead eyes...

When one wants to stay alone as my love (Arthur) indicates the other must stay apart."

Marilyn moved back to Los Angeles in 1958 to begin work in 'Some Like It Hot'.  It was here when her musings and poems took a dark turn.  Here is one of these poem with a heading, 'After one year of analysis':

Help help

Help

I feel life coming closer

when all I want

Is to die

Scream---

You began and ended in air

but where was the middle?

On March 1 and 2, Marilyn wrote a letter to Dr. Greenson that described her ordeal at Payne-Whtney when she was admitted in a locked psychiatric ward of the said facilities:

"There was no empathy at Payne-Whitney---it had a very bad effect---they asked me after putting in a 'cell' (I mean cement blocks and all) for very disturbed depressed patients (except I felt I was in some kind of prison for a crime I hadn't committed.  The inhumanity thee I found archaic...everything was under lock and key...the doors have windows so patients can be visible all the time, also, the violence and markings still remain on the walls from former patients.)"

In 1956, Marilyn wrote about her distrust and fear towards Peter Lawford, Jack F. Kennedy's brother-in-law and also one of the members of the 'Rat Pack'

"the feeling of violence I've had lately about being afraid of Peter he might harm me, poison ne, etc.

why---strange look in his eyes---strange behavior in fact now I think I know why he's been here so long because I have a need to be frighten[ed]---and nothing really in my personal relationships (and dealings) lately have been frightening me---except for him---I felt very uneasy at different times with him--the real reason I was afraid of him---is because I believe him to be homosexual---not in the way I love & respect and admire [Jack] who I feel feels I have talent and wouldn't be jealous of me because I wouldn't really want to be me

whereas Peter wants to be a woman---and would like to be me---

I think

The name 'Jack' mentioned above is not 'Jack' Kennedy but maybe Jack Cole, the dancer-choreographer who befriended and coached Marilyn on 'Gentlemen Prefer Blondes' and 'There's No Business Like Show Business'.

THE SOURCE OF THIS ARTICLE IS FROM 'VANITY FAIR' ISSUED LAST NOVEMBER 2010

"MARILYN'S SECRET DIARIES"

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